Hypocrisy in Cosplay

Wednesday May 21st, 2014 at 11:16 pm

So, last night I was involved in an (rather immature) argument and it all started with a girl commenting that Jessica Nigri needs to stop trying too hard. One thing let to another and I started to realize why I lost interest in cosplaying and conventions. The argument has nothing to do with her comment per se, but I’ll get to that in a bit.

I started cosplaying back in 2010 I believe when I moved back to Nashville. The first couple of years I spent a lot of money on cosplays, hotels, props, travel, etc but I didn’t care…I was having fun, no regrets there. Most conventions I went to were small with the biggest one being Dragon*Con.

When I first got into cosplay, there weren’t many big cosplayers outside of Yaya Han and VampyBitMe. The idea of making money or a living off of cosplay was a dream many people had but few achieved. I originally wanted to do the same. After all, who wouldn’t want to spend their life dressing up as their favorite characters, taking photos, going to conventions, and having fun with their friends? However, I was only in love with the idea. My sewing practice never got past a straight line and I never pursued much of anything outside of conventions.

Fast forward a few years and cosplay has evolved. It’s almost a whole different world with limitless opportunities with a slew of top cosplayers at the helm. While conventions have been around for decades, even more so in Japan, now we’re in an era where cosplaying is recognized more than just nerds dressing up and role playing.

I stopped cosplaying for a few reasons. It’s was too expensive, I lost interest since I wasn’t making my own cosplays, and I started pursuing a new goal (one that had been on the back of my mind for years) so I lacked the time. After the argument I was having last night, I realized another reason why is because I didn’t like what the cosplay community had become.

One thing you hear constantly around the community is “Cosplay is about fun”. And it is…or at least it should be. Cosplay has become a competition, and shows such as Heroes of Cosplay, really don’t help the cause. Instead of looking for what’s right about a cosplay, everyone looks at what’s wrong. That may just be human nature.

Back to the argument I was having last night, the biggest part about cosplay that bothers me is the hypocrisy and double standards. What heated the argument was I posted a reply with a picture of the commenter at this past year’s MTAC with very little clothing. It was your typical “I’m at a convention and I’m going to wear an “original” getup that involves covering up some of my boobs and booty shorts” type of deal (It could have been a cosplay but I have no idea). Honestly, I have nothing against it. If that’s your idea of fun, go for it. I was a bit mean in my comment in pointing out the obvious but the hypocrisy irritated me. She was hating on someone for a reason she was okay with when it came to her own body. The only difference is one looked better and more successful. And no, I didn’t stalk anyone. Someone had pointed the image out to me because they remembered seeing her.

Unfortunately, since I did not have prior knowledge on a couple of things, I don’t think my point ever got across…either that or she and her boyfriend didn’t care and were more concerned about insulting me than seeing the issue for what it was, but it’s not like I’m the best debater. I was accused of white knighting among other things (such as a bitch with no life and an insane cunt o_O). I might have white knighted a little bit (if that’s what it’s being called nowadays). I made my typical “she works for it” “she doesn’t need to try hard” “people hate on her because she’s doing it too right” etc etc speech. *holds up GO NIGRI flag* (okay not really) I think if I left it at that, nothing would have came of it. We would have been two people with an opinion, but I felt like pointing out hypocrisy for once. If I’m a bitch for that, then I am but hey…I have a life :( (While we are on the subject of pointing out hypocrisy, I get crap for “white knighting” a cosplayer but when her boyfriend white knights her, she’s totally okay with it and praises him.)

I couldn’t care less whether or not she or anyone out there liked Jessica Nigri or any other cosplayer. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and everyone has a different one. However, I don’t understand when people dislike others for the very exact same things that they will do themselves. Had she disliked JN just for sexualizing her cosplays, yea ok…I can see why people dislike that. To find her doing the exact same thing, well…I don’t understand. To add to the hypocrisy, I was also pointed out a picture of her female Ash Ketchum cosplay which is almost a direct replica of the one Jessica Nigri did. I think the only difference was booty shorts instead of an ultra short skirt. It’s no different than people who hate liars but constantly lie to others. Or one of my favorites, women are sluts for wearing as little as bra and underwear but these same people will either wear bikinis or check out/hit on chicks in bikinis.

That is just one example of why I no longer care to cosplay. I still love seeing amazing cosplays and the work put into them, but I’ve lost interest (for now) in cosplaying and attending conventions. Everyone knows that sex sells. Just look at the characters that people are cosplaying…scantly dressed characters with large tits are everywhere in anime, gaming, comics, and tv shows. Women are being hated for one of the very reasons why we like what we like. You’ll most likely never hear someone say “OMG the chicks in Dead or Alive need to stop trying so hard”. Walk around in a convention…you’ll probably see more cosplays and outfits done solely to attract attention than cosplays that people do for the art. So it makes no sense why it’s okay for one person to do it but not for others.

This issue goes way beyond what me and this girl were talking about last night, what that did was it got me thinking. Just read through any facebook post, instagram picture, youtube video, or internet article. The amount of bullying (both online and offline) is insane and people are okay with this. No wonder why you have kids out there committing suicide or shooting places up. Very little is being done about it and as long as nothing drastic happens, it’s totally okay for people to call women derogatory terms or make fun of a person’s looks/what they like. Who knows, maybe people do it because others do it to them. What does that really help in the end?

Hypocrisy comes in all shapes and forms and this is just one of the most blatant examples. We live in a society where success is measured by how many haters we have, and I’m not just talking about cosplay at this point. People can’t be happy for the success of others. Instead, it’s what we can say about them to make ourselves feel or look better. Women become sluts when success comes from their looks and men are hated for every reason possible. No one can be too good at something.

I have no idea what the main point of this novel is, I guess it’s wtf hypocrites? But it goes much further than cosplay, people need to start seeing the real issues. What we learned in kindergarten about doing onto others as we would want them to do onto us went out the window long time ago. Having an opinion is one thing, being a hypocrite is another.

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A mix of good and bad

Monday May 12th, 2014 at 10:16 pm

I am happy to announce I am now officially going on an Alaskan cruise come June :D !! I’m so excited my parents were able to work this vacation out for me since they’re both super busy and they recently came from a 2 week stay in China. I’ve been on two cruises in the past in the Caribbean so I’m looking forward to a change of scenery. I haven’t had a vacation in a year (first world problems) and can definitely use one, especially one with all you can eat super yummy foods. I love to travel but the opportunity doesn’t come up often. So when it does, I get super giddy.

So those stupid, effing medical compensation guys are still bothering me (original post here), more so in the last few days which is why I’m a little irritated. Normally I ignore their calls but they’re calling multiple times a day now. I would actually be less irritated if it was different people calling me but it’s literally the same guy every. single. time. I honestly don’t know if he’s just stupid enough to think I’m that stupid or if he has serious issues. We go through the same song and dance every time and he acts like he’s never talked to me before. He doesn’t know proper English and will only resort to two things 1) his script 2) whatever lame, random insults he knows (today was “go to hell”). Why are you going to call and bother someone and then tell them to go to hell if they decide to bother you?

I’m so happy I won’t have to deal with him anymore in 7 weeks. I can’t get him to stop calling all hours of the day and night and there’s no way to block the calls since they either come from different numbers or from an unknown number. Does this guy actually get anyone dumb enough to fall into the scam? One of these days, I’m going to play along to see exactly what he is phishing for. But omfg…STOP CALLING ME! Or at least learn some freaking English.

I should have part 2 of my Japan trip from last year up this week. I’ve been getting a little sidetracked lately. I think I’m doing good with cleaning. I cleaned out a lot of my stuff at my parents house. I feel like I threw away half my childhood but a lot of it was stuff that I should have thrown away when we moved some years back. Out with the old, in with the new? :wink:

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Babies + Movies = No

Friday May 2nd, 2014 at 10:33 pm

Short rant time, cause this has been happening to me way too much in the past couple of years and it’s one of my biggest pet peeves.

I cannot stand people who bring their babies or toddlers into movie theaters just because they are too cheap to hire a baby sitter and want to catch a late night showing. The kids always end up crying or whining and the parents don’t do much about it.

I once went to a midnight release (can’t remember the movie) and this baby flat out bawled his poor little face off for probably a couple minutes. This really isn’t a long time but in movie time, it’s a long ass fucking time. The parents stayed in the theater trying to shush the baby until finally the mother took the baby out of the theater because he wouldn’t stop crying. I guess they either ended up leaving or the mother stayed outside with the baby.

It’s the middle of the night and your baby just wants to sleep. How do you think he’s going to do that in the middle of a loud, action packed movie???

I get it. Baby sitters sure as hell aren’t cheap. And I get it, you really wanted to see this movie. I don’t blame you. I really wanted to see it too. However, that’s no excuse to bring your baby/toddler in with you and ruin it for everyone else.

I don’t get people who become parents and think everything can stay the same. Guess what? After you have a kid, it’s no longer about you. It’s about your kid. Not ready for that kind of commitment? Don’t fucking have kids then. Want to have a kid? Deal with the consequences. Wait for the movie to come out on Redbox or hire a sitter. A late night showing is no place for babies or young children for multiple reasons, and people wonder how their children turn out the way that they do. I’m surprised movie theaters have not tried to ban people from seeing certain movies with a baby. It’s really becoming a thing lately. No joke, 90% of the time I’m at a late night showing of a popular new movie, there will be a baby crying or kids talking.

Btw, The Amazing Spider Man 2 really is amazing. I loved the humor they added this time. However, having to deal with some kid whining daddy daddy repeatably throughout the movie kind of lessened the experience.

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WTF Gmail?

Saturday April 12th, 2014 at 11:02 pm

I keep forgetting that Gmail likes to label everything as important after a certain amount of time. I guess after a while, if it’s still in my inbox or folders, it should be important. I really wish it would stop doing that though. If the option is there, it should be something that I label myself.

Also, there’s no option for me to delete emails from my phone. I only have the option to archive, which labels everything as important. Because of this, I wanted to clean out my Gmail a bit tonight and I went ahead and deleted everything in the Important folder.

I went back to my inbox and noticed that a lot of my emails are gone. It took me a few seconds to realize what had happened cause believe it or not, I did this once in the past and completely forgot. (sometimes I fail at life) I managed to salvage a few emails but I’m not about to go through 7000+ emails in my trash to find what I wanted to keep. I can only hope whatever got deleted wasn’t that important.

Also, at this point, I cannot figure out how to stop the contact form emails from automatically going to the spam folder. Filtering them does not work because of where they are sent from and I can’t find a solution.

Gmail, why you give me problems all of a sudden?

And all of them stemmed from me wanting to improve my coding skills a bit after all these years.

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Tuesday April 8th, 2014 at 3:07 pm

I’m so sick and tired of getting these spam calls repeatedly.

I told them nicely I wasn’t interested the first couple of times. When I asked them to remove from their calling list, the guy on the phone ended up insulting me. I told him it wasn’t the first or second time I had gotten calls from them. He kept trying to tell me that it’s not possible as it’s the first time he and his department have called me. I told him I didn’t care (regarding how many times I’ve been called), I just wanted him to remove my number from his list. His response was “If you don’t care, then you are not an American citizen!” Uhhh..what? He clearly didn’t understand me although it is true that I don’t care about medical compensation. I have health insurance and have no need for so called medical compensation from someone who can barely speak English.

I’ve done a little research on them and it seems a lot of people have the same problem. They seem to be calling from overseas (India is my guess judging from the accent). Normally, I get a man that identifies himself as “John Smith” and states that he’s selling medical compensation. Other people have had rude responses as well, some have been cussed out or have other random responses like I did. They either call from an unknown number or a random number for FL, etc and if you try to dial back, it’ll say the number is not valid.

Most of the time, I don’t bother picking up anymore. Sometimes I get calls every week, sometime I get calls 1-2 months later. Every now and then when I get bored, I’ll pick up for the hell of it. However, it’s not so much fun to insult these people. His English is very poor and he has very limited understanding outside of the basics. When he called today, he kept asking me if I was Spanish and re-starting his scripted speech until he eventually hung up.

It’s just a lame, annoying scam with no solution outside of changing your number. I know everyone has to make a buck somehow but this is too ridiculous.

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Dear Tommy’s Mom

Friday February 14th, 2014 at 11:45 am

Dear Tommy’s Mom,

Your son is about as innocent as the lie you told about your son being innocent. Please take off your rose-colored glasses. A child cannot be innocent when his own mother teaches him to hate. You want your son to know that homosexuals are wrong because why? The bible said so? It’s not “normal”? You were taught so? Yet, hate is okay because you are using it to justify something that you believe it’s wrong. At this rate, maybe one day you’ll murder someone and justify that being right because he was, I dunno….gay? Where does it end? It doesn’t.

You probably live a pretty normal lifestyle. You’re married, have a son, probably go to work 5 days a week, work hard to support your family, want the best for your son, etc etc. Yet, you have one of the worst lifestyles ever. What makes a family to you? A man, a woman, and children? Throw in some dogs and cats and fish. So, by your logic, a family where the dad is always drunk and the mom beats the children is a great lifestyle to you. It should be given that it fits the description of a normal family.

I’m not saying that Sophia’s family is perfect. I know nothing about them. They could abuse Sophia for all I know or they could love her and provide her with everything she needs. I don’t know much about your family either. You could have a perfect, loving family or your husband could be molesting your son at night. Who knows. What I do know is you are judging someone based off of their sexual preferences instead of themselves as an individual. I can understand Tommy not going to Sophia’s party because Sophia bullies Tommy. Or maybe you don’t want Tommy associating with Sophia because she harms small animals. But the only reason you have is because Sophia comes from a “different” family than you do.

Hate only leads to more hate. Take this semi-rant for example. If you’re okay with that, by all means, continue as you do. I don’t want to hear you bitch about the consequences. I’m sorry Tommy has to grow up with you as a mother.

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Some People

Wednesday February 27th, 2013 at 11:36 pm

One thing I cannot stand is rude, idiotic people. On my way back home from picking up my packages, I got yelled at by a guy who for some reason…seemed more pissed off than he should have been. Who knows…maybe he had a bad day, maybe he got fired from work, maybe he was on his way to deal with a crazy baby momma. Either way, keep it to yourself.

I was trying to turn left onto a fairly busy street since it was around rush hour. I usually always turn into the middle lane first and then merge since that’s pretty much the only way to get out. The flow of traffic on the other side is usually never ending for a while. As I’m turning into the middle lane, he tries to turn too. However, he didn’t even have his blinker on so how the hell was I supposed to know he wasn’t going straight. He decided that he wanted to switch lanes after I had already started turning. Now, mind you…I wasn’t going incredibly fast so I stopped when I saw that he was trying to switch lanes and I had every intention of letting him go first (even though I would be blocking 2 lanes of traffic in less than 30 seconds) since he had the right of way. He looks at me like I’m an idiot and screams “GO” really, fucking sternly and loudly.

So, I went and he revved up his loud engine and charged down the lane as if there wasn’t a red light several yards down. Oh, he was also on the phone the entire time this was happening. That’s real safe.

Most people in Nashville have pretty decent and courteous driving manners. You always hear about this city or that city where driving has to be more aggressive but not so much here. However, when it comes to idiocy in terms of driving, it’s mind boggling how some people have licenses or still have licenses. I’m not sure what the driving test is like now but back when I tested for my license at age 18, I literally drove in a square and parked and that was the end of my driving test. Too easy!

Oh happier notes, my camera bag came today and for something being “refurbished”, it’s brand spanking new! I can’t wait for the camera to arrive tomorrow.

eBay has also once again made my day. I was leaving feedback and randomly looked at the suggestions at the bottom of the page and saw something called macro close up lens. I’m still new in the world of digital photography so of course there’s a lot of things I do not understand yet. These lens are made for taking close up pictures and the super awesome part? They are soooo affordable! Of course you can buy much better quality lens for several hundred dollars that will definitely beat these lens out of the water but for someone just starting out, cheap lens is definitely the way to go.

I have my first hair appointment tomorrow in a long time. I’m hoping it goes well. Honestly, I have never had a good experience getting my hair cut in Nashville. One time I ended up with pretty much the same hair I came in with. Another time I ended up with a mushroom head. No joke…the guy cut off so much of my hair that I had almost a boy’s cut except it looked like the top of a mushroom. Thankfully I do not have any of those photos. It took forever for my hair to grow back! And all I asked him to do was to layer my hair and cut it below my shoulders. The last time I had my hair cut in Nashville, she cut off twice as much as what I wanted and didn’t even thin it properly. It took a year for my hair to grow back to it’s original lenght.

Normally I wait until I go down to Atlanta and get my hair cut there but my hair is a little bit out of control now and is in need of a trim and some styling. I spent several hours trying to find a place that had good reviews and I think I found just the one, Palour and Juke! They had really great reviews and everyone seemed to have had a great experience there so I’m going to try them out tomorrow after I get off work.

It’s off to bed earlier tonight! I’ve been so tired lately.

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RE: Colorado Theater Shooting

Sunday July 22nd, 2012 at 1:31 am

I’m sure by now mostly people have heard of the Colorado movie theater shooting that occurred during the midnight release of The Dark Knight Rises. Unless you live outside of the US, I find it hard to believe if you haven’t but here’s some nice links.


You get the general idea but a quick google search will yield a plethora of articles.

So, some thoughts and background info. First, let’s meet the man in action.

James Eagan Holmes, born December 13, 1987 and originally from San Diego, is a decent looking guy…creepy but still decent looking. He likes to pretend he’s the Joker, has no friends on My Space outside of Tom, loves to play Guitar Hero, and enjoys guns, sex, explosives, drugs, and loud music. He pretty much sounds like your average 20 something year old guy (well, minus the Joker part).

Holmes was enrolled to get his PhD in Neuroscience (smart much?) until he dropped out in June. It’s ironic how his adultfriendfinder.com account was also created in June..

Holmes did not seem to have many friends and generally kept to himself. A classmate of his stated that while she had almost every class with him, she did not notice him much because he was so quiet. Holmes had no felonies, misdemeanors, traffic citations, etc and was definitely not a trouble maker. See, it is the quiet ones that you have to look out for.

It sounds like a recipe for psychoticness to me. And as for even more proof that something has definitely been wrong with the guy…

Ah, the parents. It always goes back to the parents.

When interviewed, James Holmes mother had not been contacted about the shooting in CO yet but still told people:

“You have the right person. I need to call the police. I need to fly out to Colorado.”

I don’t think anyone’s mother would instantly say to the public “Oh, that’s my son that went and shot 70+ people, you don’t even have to give me the details” without knowing something else. From what I also heard, she had a “bad feeling” during time the shooting took place.

I think she’s hiding something. There are plenty of parents who know or deny their kids need help and don’t provide/address it. This is the type of shit that happens when they don’t, although I’m not saying people are instantly cured if they do but at least it’s trying.

There’s not too much word on the dad yet, other than he flew out to CO earlier on Friday. His other family members described him as shy but intelligent and seemed shocked at the news.

Next, the victims…

There’s not an official release on all of the victims yet. As of now, there are reports that a total of 71 people were either wounded or killed. At least 12 people were killed, 10 died on the spot.

One girls story peaked my interest.

Jessica Redfield was an aspiring sportscaster. She had narrowly escaped another shooting just the month before on June 5 (hey, the same day Holmes created his sex profile! not really relevant outside of it being amusing) at a mall.

On her blog, A Run on of Thoughts, she described how she originally wanted to get sushi but changed her mind at the very last minute. She opted for a burger even though it is unlikely for her to change her mind once she has decided on something.

After she ate quickly, she felt funny…but not in the “I just ate too quickly, I feel sick” funny but as if something was causing her to feel panicky/weird. She went outside for some fresh air just minutes after she bought her food. The gunshots rung out 3 minutes after the time of purchase on her receipt, had she not stepped outside, she would have been in the middle of that gunfire. The man who opened fire was standing in the exact same spot that she had been eating at prior.

Redfield mentions on how this event forever changed her life. She quotes:

“I was shown how fragile life was on Saturday. I saw the terror on bystanders’ faces. I saw the victims of a senseless crime. I saw lives change. I was reminded that we don’t know when or where our time on Earth will end. When or where we will breathe our last breath. For one man, it was in the middle of a busy food court on a Saturday evening.”

It’s unfortunate she did not have the same feeling just one and a half months later and passed away in a similar situation , Final Destination anyone?

Jessica’s story did touch my heart. I’m not much of a religious person nor do I entirely believe that when we die is pre-destined. Yes, death is inevitable unfortunately. Who can say whether or not her encounter at the mall occurred for her to realize every second and the people around her are precious just so she would start to fully appreciate it before something bigger occurred or if she is just very very unfortunate.

Between stories like this and 1000 Ways to Die (yes, I sometimes watch too much TV), reality really hits just knowing that you don’t know what can happen tomorrow. Much like Jessica says, every second is a gift. We should learn to cherish and appreciate what’s around us regardless of what happens tomorrow.

RIP Jessica, my heart goes out to your family.

Victim #2 and #3…

I won’t go into anymore past these 2 but I felt like this was something I had to address. Victim’s #2 and #3 were 3 month old and 6 years old, both only wounded fortunately.

This is a huge pet peeve of mine, I’m sorry. While I feel some sympathy for the children and the family, a bigger part of me cannot help but want to say “WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU PARENTS THINKING?”

I don’t go to midnight showings that often but I have gone to several. Without fail, there will always be some baby or toddler in the movie theater crying.

Okay parents, I understand it’s almost impossible for you to find a babysitter that late at night without breaking the bank and it’s much easier and cheaper to just bring your kids into a movie theater. However, I would also like to point out that it’s nothing but annoying, inconsiderate, plain rude, and stupid. I paid to watch a movie, not to listen to your kid cry. I’ve been in a movie where there was a baby crying for almost 30 minutes before the mother finally took him/her outside. No, shushing your child repeatedly will not make them stop crying late at night with loud sounds everywhere.

If you can’t find a baby sitter, wait until you can to go watch a movie. Unfortunately, you decided you wanted to have kids. Take responsibility for it, otherwise, don’t have kids. It’s that simple. If you’re not ready to be a parent then don’t be a parent. For some reason, this concept is hard for many people to understand and I’m not just talking about bringing kids out late at night to movies they shouldn’t be at but that’s another entry for another day.

I’m glad none of the kids were severely injured or even worse, dead and I hope for their sake of what they went through, parents look at this as a light bulb and realize that there’s a time and place for children to be at.

Even without shootings, a midnight showing of an action packed movie rated PG-13 is not the place for kids to be at. I don’t want to say I’m telling people how to parent their kids, but hey…I have opinions. I don’t care if your kids watch the movie, or even watch a rated R movie (although I might not agree with it) but taking someone as young as 3 months old can’t be good for them, especially on their ears. However…if you don’t care, why should I care right? which is why I cannot feel as much sympathy for the parents as I do for the kids.

Now, a little bit of the aftermath.

Holmes is in custody right now and has not been cooperative with the police outside of telling them he rigged his apartment. He has recently been placed in solitary confinement after several inmates stated that they would kill him if they had the chance. Reports say that Holmes has been nothing but crazy since arrested and that he did do drugs prior to the incident. So, if anyone ever decides to look up someone on adultfriendfinder.com and their answer to “drugs” is “prefer not to say”, it should be more obvious now that they obviously do drugs. They just don’t like to share nor do they like to lie.

Police have successfully deactivated all explosives in the apartment. Holmes had set up booby traps all over his apartment prior to the shooting.

The studio behind The Dark Knight Rises has removed all images and references to guns from all of the movie trailers. This I think is stupid, sorry.

Countless debates have risen all over the internet. The trolls are happy once again.

Facebook images are live!!

Call me heartless but this is one I disagree one. I don’t think Warner Brothers should have to do anything. Sure, if tomorrow I read the news and heard that WB had donated x amount of dollars, I would totally respect them. Heck, I might even go watch the movie more than once in hopes they continue to do so. But no, I don’t think they should or have to or are obligated to do anything.

It’s an unfortunate accident that happened during the Batman movie because of a deranged individual. If WB is obligated to donate a certain amount of money to the victim’s families, why isn’t the movie theater obligated to? They are more at fault for not having better security and stopping the guy. Or why not the city of San Diego since he was raised there? Or why not his parents for bringing someone like him into this world? Where do we draw the line? Of course WB is the obvious choice everyone goes to and I don’t think it has so much to do with the movie as it does the movie. Heck, the image even states that.

Money shouldn’t have anything to do with it. If people want to help, it should be a group effort and not be on the shoulders of select individuals. I am willing to bet that the person who made the image hasn’t even donated 1 penny to the family. It’s so easy to tell others to do something when you’re not even willing to do it yourself. Does he not care for their suffering? Do the people not donating at all not care for their suffering? I guess only the studio should.

This I’m all for just because I think it’s a cute idea. Heck, I would even be willing to do something like this minus the fact most of the kids would probably ask me why does batman sound like a girl.

I would probably also have a really hard time explaining to them why I was not present during or after the shooting. I’m sure the conversation would go something like…

Kids: Where were you? Why weren’t you there to help us?
Me: Um…I was in that one part of the movie you didn’t get to watch?

So yea…this is probably a bad idea for me. I see me fucking it up more than helping.

My heart goes out to all of the family/friends/people affected by this tragic incident. It’s not the first time something like this has happened in Colorado and it’s very unfortunate.

I’m sure in the coming weeks we’ll all be keeping an eye on the news to see what happens from here. I know I would love to know of a motive out of curiosity although I have a feeling it might be something as simple as “I wanted to”.

PS: Dear parents, stop bring your babies/kids to late night showings of action/horror movies.

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My Glam Overall Review/Insight

Sunday May 13th, 2012 at 1:15 am

This is a subject I thought I would just touch up on a bit. For the record, I am in no way affiliated with My Glam. I support them because there are certain things about the company that I particularly respect, but am in no way saying everything they do is perfect. These are just my opinions and views as well to my knowledge/experience as to how everything works.

My Glam is currently entering it’s 6 month in the business industry. Having had a rocky start, they’ve built up a reputation with many people that may be less than acceptable. Over time, My Glam has worked to improve these issues but seem to still have a love hate relationship with most of it’s members. Half a year in the business gives many people the reason now to say that they can longer use the “new business” aspect as an excuse.

Billing is a small issue, but still something that is guaranteed to pop up every month. My Glam’s billing occurs the first of every month. Depending on your bank, it may take several days for the statement to show up. There’s nothing to worry about if you do not see a charge on your credit card statement the first couple of days. If it’s been several days or more and you still do not see a charge, you’ll probably want to contact My Glam at this point. There’s no reason to panic and post on My Glam’s wall repeatedly on the first day if you do not see your credit card charged. It can also vary from month to month. I usually see a statement charge by the time I’m at work the morning of the first but this month’s didn’t show until the night of the second.

Shipping is and will probably always be one of the biggest issues My Glam has, and to be honest..I don’t understand a lot of it. I have mixed feelings on their shipping process to begin with, there’s aspects that I think are fine and also aspects that I think could be improved although they are not obligated to do so. My Glam’s shipping is schedule for the middle of the month, there’s no set date although it’s generally around the 10th without fail. For some reason, many people decide they want to pick the few days before the 10th to start questioning the shipping and a couple days after the 10th to panic about not receiving their bags. My Glam will always announce when shipping will start. Unfortunately, it does take a few days to fully ship out the bags. It’s perfectly normal for someone to receive their bag before yours is even shipped. Again…unfortunate but if you want to solve this, I suppose you can always get up and move to a different area of the US.

Shipping time will vary from person to person for a few reasons:

  • When your package is shipped from the warehouse compared to everyone else’s.
  • Where you are located in the US
  • How UPS MI is feeling that day
  • I think back in February is when My Glam made an announcement that they will ship east coast bags first to ensure a more even distribution as to when people received their bags. I have not heard anything about them either continuing this or discontinuing it. All I can say is that even though I live on the east coast, I’m usually one of the later people to receive my bag. I usually get mine 7-10 days after it’s shipped so how much truth there is in people getting their bags shipped in the east coast first is debatable, especially when people in the west coast have already begun to receive their’s before I even get my tracking. At the end of the day, it’s most important to remember: Your bag will be shipped when it’s shipped.

    Tracking information is not always sent when your bag is shipped. Why this is…I have no idea. It can be a little annoying, even for me. I’ve had times when I receive my tracking after my bag is already in transit and I’ve had times when I receive my tracking and my bag doesn’t even receive it’s first scan until 2 days later. It’s a toss up. This is probably the only inconsistency I can think of at the moment with the company. I wouldn’t worry about not receiving tracking almost immediately. If it’s been like a week and you still don’t receive tracking, send an email. Otherwise, sit tight a little bit. An email suggestion to My Glam regarding how emails should be sent out wouldn’t hurt either.

    Everyone knows location is a factor when it comes to shipping. Locating in CA, anyone living east of it will have to expect longer transit times for obvious reasons. UPS MI (Mail Innovations) has become one of my most hated services. I understand why a lot of companies use it, both Birch Box and Glossy Box use the same service. It’s cheaper than USPS First Class and even Parcel Post. How UPS MI works is that the packages are picked up and shipped by UPS and delivered by USPS. Once the packages reach a certain destination, USPS will pick them up and deliver them. The catch here is that UPS MI is not obligated to any type of transit time limit and can move these packages whenever they see fit, as long as it’s in a timely manner…hence the cheaper rates. USPS will then have to pick them up, sort them, and set them off for delivery, adding another step into the process. With My Glam, my average transit time is about 7-10 days with there being days where my package will sit for no reason. My guess is that Atlanta is the pickup point for USPS since that’s generally where my packages like to chill for a couple days before moving again. Glossy Box is based in New York and my first box took 5 business days to reach me. First class mail would have only taken 2 days, 3 at the very most. After packages leave the My Glam warehouse, it’s out of My Glam’s control. They can, and generally do, ship the packages on time but it’s hard to guarantee the same amount of time in transit every month. That you will have to take up with UPS MI.

    Another thing to keep in mind is where the weekends fall that particular month. There have been people saying that this date last month, they had already received their packages…not considering how the week went. In April, the 10th fell on a Tuesday. Bags were shipped starting the 8th or 9th so it’s highly possible a lot of people got their bags by the 12th. However, this month, the 10th falls on a Friday. UPS is not in transit at all during the weekend, unless it’s something going air. You will lose 2 days of transit time because of it. USPS might deliver on Saturdays, but the only way for that to happen is if USPS gets a hold of your package by Saturday morning. With the 10th being on a Friday, the chances of that happening aren’t very high…possible, but not likely.

    Now, there are a couple things I can My Glam can do to lessen the amount of shipping questions. They are nice enough to post a facebook and twitter announcement but it’s understandable that not every one keeps up with either social media nor will take the time to scroll down half a page to find the info. They will, however, have plenty of time to post the same question repeatedly on My Glam’s wall. This, I will never understand. Anyhow, it would be much more effective for My Glam to send an automated email to subscribers and to update the website. I do find this to be a bit over excessive and will feel sorry for My Glam having to do extra work because some people are too dumb to realize that it really is the same process month after month. This comment is in no way aimed at new subscribers. I understand that being new, it’s hard to know how shipping schedules work unless you’ve kept up with it. Having emails for new subscribers will definitely be worth it. On top of that, the website does already say shipping will occur in the middle of the month. Depending on how you want to split the month up, it can mean the 15th or it can mean the 10th through the 20th if you want to split it into thirds. They are in no way obligated to ship it by the 10th.

    Bag content will always be a love/hate relationship. There’s two things I want to touch up on about this.

    1) My Glam advertises 4-5 deluxe-sized or full sized samples. Just what exactly are deluxe sized samples? The website FAQ answers this as it being an item “that delivers multiple uses of the same high-quality product”. How you choose to make up this is entirely up to you. For most people, this involves something definitely not in a tiny packet even if you can get multiple uses out of it. The Pur~lisse daily moisturizer from March’s bag, while in a small packet, did last me for almost a month. Honestly, all of their packet samples have provided ample uses. If you do not get more than 2-3 uses out of one, your probably using too much. Most of these items don’t require you to use a lot each time. With that being said, even I personally hate tiny packets. They are hard to keep up with and look cheap. I also have to buy small containers to keep them in as I use them. Regardless of how long I can use one, I vote a definite no on the tiny packets as well. I’m not sure if this is something My Glam can control. They can always look for other companies I suppose that do not offer packets.

    2) You are guarenteed 4-5 beauty products every month. There is no limit as to what these items can be or what the bags should consist of. You may receive a bag that’s completely skin care or completely filled with nail products one month. They have the right to do it although I highly doubt the will since it seems they like to keep a variety in their bags. Please do not subscribe to these type of services (I’m not only talking about My Glam) and start complaining about what’s in the bags. The main point behind beauty subscription services is that you pay less to try more. If all you want to do is try makeup, save your money and go purchase solely makeup for you to try yourself. Beauty is not only limited to makeup. You can have all the makeup in the world but if you have bad skin or bad hair, do you really think makeup will make you look gorgeous? If you like to subscribe to these services, you will need to keep an open mind. There will most definitely be items that you don’t like to use or know you won’t use. I keep getting nail polish from various services and I absolutely dislike using nail polishes but that’s the gamble you take. You’re paying money for a bag of items to try, not for a bag of items you definitely will need. I am in no way saying, you cannot have negative opinions or complaints about the items in the bag. Everyone has their likes and dislikes but to bash My Glam over it is a little excessive. There’s many ways to say you dislike a product and would like to see something else. Just keep in mind that this “something else” you love will be something else that someone else hates, and vice versa.

    So, what is My Glam really doing wrong? They’re not perfect in anyway but they offer a bigger interactive base with their customers than most other companies. You can’t even post on Birch Box’s facebook wall. People want email updates in regards to shipping when you have more established companies like Birch Box and The Look Bag who do not update you on shipping whatsoever. Bags/boxes ship in the middle of month and it’s the same month after month. You know your item will ship in the middle of the month when you sign up and that’s it. Is it because more established companies have weeded out the people who complain the most and have established a good base with people who have been with the service long enough to know how it works without question? It’s possible. It’s also possible that people are less likely to complain about box contents for the same reason. My Glam isn’t doing it much worse than anyone else. Comparing them to a higher paying service such as Beauty Army, Sample Society, or Glossy Box will be entirely unfair. Even $2 a month difference can and will change the contents of a box. If you pay more, you should expect to receive more. Birch Box offers its customers tiny sample packets and small perfume samples as well, yet there is so much less hate for them doing so? It seems My Glam is getting a lot of backlash for certain things that other companies either do or don’t even take the time to consider doing it. Am I missing something?

    Personally, I’ve had good experiences with My Glam *knocks on wood* While my packages might take forever to get to me, I’ve had no problems with. Customer service has always been prompt in helping me fix any situations. I like the fact that they are interactive and take the time to listen to suggestions. It’s things like this why I like to support a company, hence the monthly My Glam giveaways that will be occurring soon. One reason why I subscribe to more than 1 service is for the comparison. As someone who currently subscribes to: My Glam, Birch Box, The Look Bag, Sample Society, Glossy Box, and recently canceled Beauty Army, Beauty Fix, and Julep..I can say that My Glam is doing quite well in the competition. All companies will have mishaps and kinks they need to sort out but as far as My Glam’s overall process, it’s been steady, reliable, and improving. Everyone has different tastes so it’s natural for someone to prefer one service over the other whether it’s for the items and/or the service itself. That’s why we have so many options on different levels.

    These are just my opinions, some are fact…others are strictly opinions and experiences. It’s not meant to change anyone’s mind on My Glam but hopefully is able to provide some kind of outline as how the company currently works. People will have different experiences and I am sorry for those who have had poor experiences.

    PS: Actually reading the My Glam facebook change can do wonders. Most people ask the same question over and over again. Spending 2 seconds to look ahead of time can be beneficial to you. 1) You save time not having to type a status and 2) you get an answer immediately! It doesn’t get better than that.

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    Hail to Bristol Palin!

    Friday May 11th, 2012 at 12:55 am

    P90X is really kicking my butt. Even only doing it twice a week has my body sore non-stop. After a night of working out, it’s time to work on the blog a little as well with some other things :)

    I’m finally updating my iTunes music to my iPhone. My iPod decided to die sometime last year and I’ve been too lazy to transfer music onto my iPhone. I would buy a new iPod but I don’t have the money to currently and there’s really not a huge need for it given my phone. I prefer to carry an iPod around as the battery life on it is considerably longer than my iPhone. I’ll have to leave my iPhone plugged to a charger in order to listen to music for a while. There’s a new software update as well for the iPhone. Instincts tell me I shouldn’t do it given what happened last time, but I’m going to do it anyway and hope I don’t spend the rest of the night fixing anything.

    I made some changes to the last post about Glossy Box’s debut. Some more information has been added in regards to the subscription/service. I originally typed the blog post at my parents house and didn’t have a lot of time to touch up on everything. Some new information has also been released since then, which I’ve added to the post. I also will be adding more to the Holika Holika Bulgarian Rose 12 Hr Moisturizer post later, maybe even tonight if I have the time.

    I’m really tired at the moment but this is something that I really wanted to blog about. Hopefully, it will come out the way I want it to. Normally, I don’t like to get into politics but I also don’t like to deal with stupidity on a day to day basis. Bristol Palin recently made a blog entry in reply to President Obama’s take on gay marriage. You can read all about it here. I’m giving her more publicity but not like I really care. Her main point on her blog is the fact that President Obama’s view on gay marriage is influenced by his wife and daughters.

    Obama: It’s interesting, some of this is also generational,” the president continued. “You know when I go to college campuses, sometimes I talk to college Republicans who think that I have terrible policies on the economy, on foreign policy, but are very clear that when it comes to same-sex equality or, you know, sexual orientation, that they believe in equality. They are much more comfortable with it. You know, Malia and Sasha, they have friends whose parents are same-sex couples. There have been times where Michelle and I have been sitting around the dinner table and we’re talking about their friends and their parents and Malia and Sasha, it wouldn’t dawn on them that somehow their friends’ parents would be treated differently. It doesn’t make sense to them and, frankly, that’s the kind of thing that prompts a change in perspective.

    Okay…so which part of this makes it seem like his stand on gay marriage is solely influenced by the views of his daughters and wife? From what I see, he’s spending good quality time with his family. Isn’t that something that a “Christian” nation emphasizes? What family do you know doesn’t affect each other? Just because you’re family might not care about anything you say doesn’t mean that every one else’s family is the same. If you’re kids are important to you, you listen to what they have to say and if there’s nothing wrong with it, why tell them no?

    Bristol: So let me get this straight – it’s a problem if my mom listened too much to my dad, but it’s a heroic act if the President made a massive change in a policy position that could affect the entire nation after consulting with his teenage daughters?

    This logic is dumb to begin with so I’m going to give a dumb answer in response: Yes, if his teenage daughters are smarter than both you and your mom combined.

    Bristol: While it’s great to listen to your kids’ ideas, there’s also a time when dads simply need to be dads.

    How is he not being a dad? He’s interacting with this daughters, taking the time to talk to them and listen to their opinions. Last time I checked, that was good for a family. We all know what happens to children that are neglected or told that they are wrong all the time.

    Bristol: In this case, it would’ve been helpful for him to explain to Malia and Sasha that while her friends parents are no doubt lovely people, that’s not a reason to change thousands of years of thinking about marriage.

    Oh, Bristol…you really out did yourself on this one. Let’s focus solely on the “thousands of years of thinking about marriage” part. Did you know that thousands of years of thinking about marriage also emphasizes the importance of marriage and family? Last I checked, you got knocked up at 18 and your baby daddy is now expecting a child with another woman. You can’t even set an example, yet you will bash the view points of someone else?

    I wouldn’t quote Jershy Shore members on anything but JWoww did say something worth quoting.

    JWoww: Bristol should keep her uneducated, ignorant mouth shut. If you’re living in the past you wouldn’t have a kid without marriage. Hypocrite. It’s 2012!

    I couldn’t have said it better. Before you start pointing out flaws of others, you should start with yourself and that of your family. It’ll keep you busy for a while.

    Bristol: we know that in general kids do better growing up in a mother/father home. Ideally, fathers help shape their kids’ worldview.

    Right….cause we all know you turned out to be the loviest of people growing up with a mom and a day. End sarcasm. If father’s help shape their kids’ worldview, I would strongly encourage Obama to keep doing what he is doing. Your dad, on the other hand, should have been removed far far away from you and the rest of your family. His viewpoints have done nothing to this nation but create a family of ignorant, worthless pieces of crap.

    Bristol: I guess we can be glad that Malia and Sasha aren’t younger, or perhaps today’s press conference might have been about appointing Dora the Explorer as Attorney General because of her success in stopping Swiper the Fox.

    Dora the Explorer comes with some pretty good life lessons. Watch and episode or two, it might turn you into a decent human being. Again, dumb comments deserve dumb responses.

    Bristol: Sometimes dads should lead their family in the right ways of thinking. In this case, it would’ve been nice if the President would’ve been an actual leader and helped shape their thoughts instead of merely reflecting what many teenagers think after one too many episodes of Glee.

    What is the right way? The way where your children will always be wrong but you’re right? The way where you keep them in the smallest of bubbles that they don’t even realize there is a real world? Believe it not Bristol, there are real world issues…not something you only see in Glee. Maybe you should stop watching Glee…

    Personally, I do not care if you are for or against gay marriage. Everyone is entitled to their opinions as I am to mine. I do not expect to change anyone’s view points nor do I expect anyone to change mine. However, for anyone to take such a strong stand point on it, I would also expect you to fully support and practice the ideals of a perfect marriage. Yet, you’re not even married. If you can’t practice everything you preach, you have no right judging and bashing others when you’re full of flaws and lash out at people who do point them out. I would have much more respect for her if she was against gay marriage but stood her ground on all views as to what marriage in America should be.

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